Why you don't like to pose

This awkward feeling…
You can feel it in your whole body.…

Everything started at school : class photo.
The photographer is in a hurry, clothes you never wear, ill-fitting, click…David closes his eyes. We start again…
click…done.

Liberation.

Kitsch reaches posterity and you hold your breath seeing the result…

Then it continues at a wedding, group pictures. Think it will be easier when you’re not alone ? Nope.
The light, the settings, patience. You are looking for your composure.
Uncle starts his unforgettable jokes like they were fresh…

Click!
Checking on the back of the camera screen. Ok no matter, I’m too …..or not enough…I’m not photogenic. Easy conclusion, bad feeling.

And if all was and wasn’t about you at the same exact tiny time ?

Few months before my own wedding, I was talking with a groom, Mathieu. We raised the topic of being the center of the attention and the anxiety which comes with it…. And he said something close to this :

« You only have one thing to care about: your wife »  

This means that if I care about how she feels, I can forget this fear.
It really resonated with what I can think about the absolute necessity of others. 

Simplicity of empathy…everything starts when you focus on someone else. Philosophical and practical.
Everything starts when the awkward feelings disappears.

Easy?

Empathy on demand? Hard task ? Yes.
But it also works when you are diverted from you, and this is what people behind the camera should have in focus.


And so years ago, right after this conversation with this groom, I’ve figured out that what I learn while photographing was not technical.  

For capturing the “confident you” , I will need to learn how to divert you from your image, or to be extremely discrete but this is another story.

Available for you ?


First things first, let’s see if we can be at the same place at the same time.

You can also reach me on :
Email: sb@sebastienboudot.co   Phone : +33 (0)6 33 296 115.


Dear Couple,

I’m Sebastien, your photographer based in Provence. 

I follow couples who want effortlessly beautiful pictures anywhere in the world.

I want you to see yourself confident, joyful and sincere.